When I was hanging out on the pedestrian street, a "war" between a boy and a mother of about 3 years old caught my attention. I saw the boy staring in front of the toy booth, and the mother pushing the baby carriage next to him repeatedly urged him to go home and refused to leave. The angered mother simply dropped the baby carriage and walked straight to the boy: "Can't you go? Don't leave, yell at you!" Then the boy lay down on the floor and kept groaning in his mouth: I want to buy a toy, I want to buy a toy!" The mother grabbed the boy's arm and kept chanting: "There are so many toys at home, you still want to buy, buy it, buy it, then expensive, you are not obedient, I will buy it for you?"
This situation reminds me that some friends usually love children, and often say to their children: "Baby, Mom and Dad are not at home, you have to listen to grandparents, as long as you obey, Dad will take you to the streets to buy toys!"
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In the hearts of these parents, the toy becomes a tool for controlling the child. If the child is obedient, he will buy it. If the child does not obey, he will not buy it. In fact, it is the parents who decide whether the child is obedient or not. The criteria for judging change with the changes of parents' emotions and psychology. Therefore, children rarely meet the immediate standards of parents' minds, no matter what is the victim of this criterion.
Play is a child's nature, children use play to understand the world, and strengthen the knowledge gained from parents, life and nature. They are not disobedient, they just can't stop exploring the world around them.
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Toys, not, should not be a bargaining chip for parents and children. Parents should buy toys for their children, regardless of whether they are obedient or not. If you buy a toy, it is best not to throw the toy to the child to play with yourself, but to participate in the process of playing with the child. Every time I buy a toy for my son, I play with him. For example, I bought a cooking tool and I will play games with him. With the participation of parents, I believe that the impression that each toy leaves in the mind of the child is not only fun, but also a picture of happiness with parents.
Toys are a child's childhood partner and should not be a tool for parents and children to bargain. Any words or deeds that associate a toy with an obedient or reward are all harm to the child. Sincerely appeal to every parent to stop talking to the child: As long as you are obedient, I will buy you toys!
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